Has anyone ever told you that you are being selfish?
You know when you say no to someone who asks you to do something, so you can go to yoga or get your nails done or do anything for yourself.
And so you change your plans, decide not to go to yoga, just so no one can say you are being selfish. This then causes you to feel unfulfilled and frustrated because you aren’t doing what you want but instead listening to someone else.
Break that habit now. Stop changing your wants for someone else. Easier said than done, I know. But when you hear the sentence “you’re being selfish” from someone, a warning flag needs to pop up. That is your alert that the person calling you selfish is trying to put guilt onto you. Most likely they don’t even realize they are doing it. It’s a subconscious act. They are trying to pull you back to your old ways (or ways they think people should follow) and not taking into consideration your own needs.
Once you get over the fear of saying “I’m not being selfish” then each time you say it, or act upon it, you create little victories for yourself. Each time someone tries to tell you that going to yoga or buying organic food is selfish, GO to yoga, BUY organic food and prove to yourself that it is not selfish. When they start to see your glowing self, they will realize self-care is no selfish act. And maybe, just maybe, they will start adding some into their own lives.
Self-care is never selfish. Read it, say it and live it.