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Patience Please, I’m Building a Dream

Let’s talk about the grind.  Not the daily grind, but the long-term, year after year grind.

In Chinese astrology, it’s the year of the Fire Rooster. Roosters can literally grind at something for years and not feel the need to get rewarded until the task is complete.  They know the reward will come when the work is done. So they grind. They push. They keep working and they don’t stop.

This is the perfect year to do just that.  To separate the reward from the work.  To grind like never before.  We are officially in month two of 2017 so here is what I want you to do.  I want you to email me your long term goal.  I want you to tell me how you are going to achieve the goal and what you are going to do this month to start the process.  This is what I’m going to do. I’m going to hold you accountable.  I’m going to email you at the end of the month and make sure you are on track.  Because I’m rooting for you and I want you to succeed.

  • Find out what you are crazy obsessed about. 
  • Pick a long term goal related to that. 
  • Figure out the steps you need to take to get there and start today.
  • Like right now.

I’ll tell you mine. I’ve been debating doing a powerlifting meet for about a year now.  I finally bit the bullet and I’m going to do my first meet on April 9th. Now I have 10 more weeks to grind it out. To push myself like I quite literally never have before and to test my skills at the end of it. Why am I doing this? Because staying the same is boring. Living a life of the same is not on my agenda. So I find hobbies, become obsessed with them, learn as much as I can about them and then test my skills.

Find your obsession, learn everything you can about it, put the time in and grind, then your dream is there right in front of you for the taking.

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Experience vs Viewing the Experience

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I have this vision of myself, standing on a cliff in Ireland.  The waves crashing below, the storm clouds rolling in and the wind swirling around me.  I put my arms out and for a long moment, I am completely experiencing.  The sounds, the feelings, the energy, the emotions.  I know no past and I don’t care about the future, I am completely submerged in the moment.  Call it a meditation or a daydream. I use this vision quite often.

Every day we are viewing experiences.  Watching other people’s lives on television or on our phones.  Driving somewhere and watching the buildings and trees go by.  These are all experiences, yes, but experiences that we are viewing rather than actually experiencing.  It’s a subtle difference but all the difference it makes.

In the book Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Robert writes about driving in car and having the windshield completely block you from the experience versus driving on a motorcycle and actually being able to experience the drive, the wind, the sunshine, the rain.  It’s the perfect analogy for experience versus viewing the experience.

Where in your life can you start to fully experience, be fully in the moment.  Multitasking is great, but it completely voids you of the moment.  Wash dishes, and only wash dishes.  Go to the gym and leave you phone in the locker.  Be completely there.  It’s so simple, but so rewarding.

Lots of Love,
Brittany

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Be in this for the long haul

Change does not happen overnight. Change takes months of consistency and hard work. fullsizerenderYears of pushing yourself to your max and doing things even when you just don’t feel like it doing it. Nothing is easy and everything takes time.

We live in a world where we can get pretty much anything we want relatively fast. And it’s created this sense of urgency in everything we do.  We want to lose 10 pounds in 5 days.  We want to be able to do headstand after 1 week of practicing yoga.  Let me just tell you now, that life is not sustainable. It’s not real. The work and time has to be put in if you want long term success.  You could probably throw yourself up in a headstand after just a few yoga classes or drop a few pounds in a week but you wouldn’t have built the foundation it took to maintain that long term.  You would soon crumble down or throw yourself into a rut or worse, delay your progress because you did too much, too fast, and too soon.

It’s so beautiful though — when someone dedicates an appropriate amount of time to something and accomplishes it. Even more so to someone who has spent a whole year working towards it, grinding at it, relentless and determined.

When I fall in love with something, like yoga or lifting, I want to be able to do it for the rest of my life. So short term goals are fun but I’m in it for the long haul, I want to be able to do these things when I’m 70 years old. With that in mind, I set appropriate goals for myself, I listen to my body when it needs a break and I honor my edge.  I’m not scared to push myself but I respect that things take time. Foundation needs to be laid in order to build.

Build your foundation, trust your body and jump when it’s ready. You’ll know.

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Feminist as F#ck

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When I was 13 I had an article published in our county newspaper about equal rights for women in the military. I didn’t realize it then but I was already a feminist.  Let me be clear here and say that at 13, I had no idea what a feminist was.  I was purely witnessing and hearing about imbalanced treatment and it was making me see red.  And even at the age of 13, I needed to express that the only way I knew how, by writing a public article in the hopes of changing even just one person’s thought on equal rights.

Flash forward to 2011, someone said to me “oh god, are you one of those feminists?”. I didn’t know how to respond because I’ve never thought of myself in that way.  I’ve never had to put a label on the way I felt.  Was I a Feminist?  Heck. Yes. However back then, being a Feminist had a negative tone surrounding it, even though it was just a few short years ago.  Celebrities, Public Figures and Influencers were holding strong to the “I’m not a feminist” line, and as such so were the people.  I responded to him by saying something along the lines of “yes, of course I am!” and he then said nothing and abruptly walked away.  Buh Bye.

Jump to current day and you have Beyoncé singing in front of a jumbo screen with the words “Feminist” on it. And not so secretly, my heart skips a beat.  I’m quickly seeing Feminism become trendy.  From new books on being a feminist, to t-shirts, to fashionable websites, to celebrities all declaring “Yes, I am a Feminist”.  Yes, I am a strong woman. Yes, I can do masculine things as a woman.  Yes, I should be treated and paid equal.

A Feminist doesn’t look a certain way, we don’t hate every man that ever walked the earth, and we don’t think we are better than anyone else. We believe in equality, we believe in protection against rape, assault and harassment, we believe in your daughter, mother, grandmother, aunt, girlfriend and wife.

Yes, I’m Feminist as F#ck and you should be too.

 

Bookworm? Check out these books:

Feminist Fight Club

We Should All Be Feminists

We Were Feminists Once

Living My Life

 

 

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7 Ways to Stop Moving Through the Motions

Sometimes life can feel like you’re on repeat. Just doing the same things day in and day out, just moving through the motions of life. Here are 7 ways to try to change that!

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  1. Change Routes.   Morning commutes can be downright horrible. I know I have at least an hour drive to work each morning, and that’s on a good day. To mix things up every once in a while, I’ll take a different bridge into the city or try a different route to work. It’s a different view, different scenery. An easy way to mix things up every once in a while.
  2. Use your time wisely.   Speaking of commute, I try to use that hour drive to work as a way to learn something new or inspire myself. Which is why I choose to listen to podcasts instead of the radio. I love Tranquility Du Jour, Girlboss Radio, Politically Re-Active and my new favorite The Land of Desire: French History & Culture.
  3. Start saying No. How many times a month do you commit yourself to doing things that you really don’t want to do. You only say yes because you feel obligated to do so. Your time is valuable so start treating it as such. Start saying no more and don’t feel the need to give a long reason why. Just say “no, I’m sorry, I’m not available”. It’s that easy.
  4. Start saying Yes. This is not a contradiction to number 3. Start saying no to the things you don’t want to do, so you can start saying yes to the things that get you really excited. Say yes, but say it because you really want to.
  5. Don’t plan so much. When we over plan things, they can start to feel mundane. There is so much excitement and exhilaration in the unplanned. Take a day, go to your nearest city and just explore. No plans, not itinerary, just walk and go wherever you want to go. I love doing this in NYC. I pick one area in NYC and just walk. If I pass a store that looks interesting I go in, if I’m feeling hungry, I grab a bite to eat. Something fun and unexpected always happens, and if I would have planned my route I would have missed it.
  6. Step out of your comfort zone, get scared. We must always be testing ourselves and pushing ourselves outside of the box. How boring a life would be if we played it safe all the time. Remove the box you’ve created and push yourself outside of your comfort.
  7. Try something new. Cook a new recipe, try a new makeup style or a new hairdo. It doesn’t have to be extravagant, but try something new. Mix things up a bit.

 

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