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Put in the Work or Just Give Up

I taught yoga to a Roller Derby team once and they were the hardest working group I’d ever taught to.  Despite it being mostly all their first time doing yoga, they put in the work and they supported each other along the way.  They didn’t make excuses when their arms started shaking, they didn’t complain about not knowing what they were doing, they tried and they pushed through.  That takes a special type of grit and toughness that is hard to come by these days.

And forget about yoga, I know that team acts the same way with everything else they do in life. They have a goal and they do whatever it takes.

No excuse will stop them from doing the work it will take to achieve their goal.

That can be a really hard concept to grasp in a world where we can buy almost anything immediately.  But results, real honest results, take extreme patience, hard work, time and the ability to say “F excuses, I’m doing it anyway”.  And to be brutally honest, if putting in work isn’t for you then you might as well just give up on the dream because you’re never going to get it by only being half in.  It’s the yo-yo effect, the “I was on a diet last week but this week I have too much to do so I’ll just eat fast food and end up gaining more weight than when I started.”  Why waste your time if you’re not going to be fully committed.

Hear me out.  Whatever your goal is, you have to put in the work 100%, be all in. Day in and day out, even when you have a million other things to do, even when you’re not feeling it.  The dream has to be more important than the struggle it will take to get there.

Put in the work or just give up.

I hope you choose to put in the work because it is so worth it

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Feminist as F#ck

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When I was 13 I had an article published in our county newspaper about equal rights for women in the military. I didn’t realize it then but I was already a feminist.  Let me be clear here and say that at 13, I had no idea what a feminist was.  I was purely witnessing and hearing about imbalanced treatment and it was making me see red.  And even at the age of 13, I needed to express that the only way I knew how, by writing a public article in the hopes of changing even just one person’s thought on equal rights.

Flash forward to 2011, someone said to me “oh god, are you one of those feminists?”. I didn’t know how to respond because I’ve never thought of myself in that way.  I’ve never had to put a label on the way I felt.  Was I a Feminist?  Heck. Yes. However back then, being a Feminist had a negative tone surrounding it, even though it was just a few short years ago.  Celebrities, Public Figures and Influencers were holding strong to the “I’m not a feminist” line, and as such so were the people.  I responded to him by saying something along the lines of “yes, of course I am!” and he then said nothing and abruptly walked away.  Buh Bye.

Jump to current day and you have Beyoncé singing in front of a jumbo screen with the words “Feminist” on it. And not so secretly, my heart skips a beat.  I’m quickly seeing Feminism become trendy.  From new books on being a feminist, to t-shirts, to fashionable websites, to celebrities all declaring “Yes, I am a Feminist”.  Yes, I am a strong woman. Yes, I can do masculine things as a woman.  Yes, I should be treated and paid equal.

A Feminist doesn’t look a certain way, we don’t hate every man that ever walked the earth, and we don’t think we are better than anyone else. We believe in equality, we believe in protection against rape, assault and harassment, we believe in your daughter, mother, grandmother, aunt, girlfriend and wife.

Yes, I’m Feminist as F#ck and you should be too.

 

Bookworm? Check out these books:

Feminist Fight Club

We Should All Be Feminists

We Were Feminists Once

Living My Life

 

 

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7 Ways to Stop Moving Through the Motions

Sometimes life can feel like you’re on repeat. Just doing the same things day in and day out, just moving through the motions of life. Here are 7 ways to try to change that!

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  1. Change Routes.   Morning commutes can be downright horrible. I know I have at least an hour drive to work each morning, and that’s on a good day. To mix things up every once in a while, I’ll take a different bridge into the city or try a different route to work. It’s a different view, different scenery. An easy way to mix things up every once in a while.
  2. Use your time wisely.   Speaking of commute, I try to use that hour drive to work as a way to learn something new or inspire myself. Which is why I choose to listen to podcasts instead of the radio. I love Tranquility Du Jour, Girlboss Radio, Politically Re-Active and my new favorite The Land of Desire: French History & Culture.
  3. Start saying No. How many times a month do you commit yourself to doing things that you really don’t want to do. You only say yes because you feel obligated to do so. Your time is valuable so start treating it as such. Start saying no more and don’t feel the need to give a long reason why. Just say “no, I’m sorry, I’m not available”. It’s that easy.
  4. Start saying Yes. This is not a contradiction to number 3. Start saying no to the things you don’t want to do, so you can start saying yes to the things that get you really excited. Say yes, but say it because you really want to.
  5. Don’t plan so much. When we over plan things, they can start to feel mundane. There is so much excitement and exhilaration in the unplanned. Take a day, go to your nearest city and just explore. No plans, not itinerary, just walk and go wherever you want to go. I love doing this in NYC. I pick one area in NYC and just walk. If I pass a store that looks interesting I go in, if I’m feeling hungry, I grab a bite to eat. Something fun and unexpected always happens, and if I would have planned my route I would have missed it.
  6. Step out of your comfort zone, get scared. We must always be testing ourselves and pushing ourselves outside of the box. How boring a life would be if we played it safe all the time. Remove the box you’ve created and push yourself outside of your comfort.
  7. Try something new. Cook a new recipe, try a new makeup style or a new hairdo. It doesn’t have to be extravagant, but try something new. Mix things up a bit.

 

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How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

I’m all about Instagram these days. And for the most part I use it as a tool to inspire myself.  But lately I’ve been noticing the inspiration shifting to comparison.

I’ll be looking at a picture of someone hiking and think, why am I not hiking. Or why can’t I deadlift that weight yet. Or why don’t my legs look like that yet. Or why is my business not as popular as hers yet.

It makes me sick even just typing that because I’m so not a jealous, comparing type of person. But let’s get real. Social Media causes a shift in your mental state that momentarily gives you the notion of dissatisfaction in your life which instantly causes you to compare yourself to others in thinking that their life is way better than yours. Whew.

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Here are 4 ways to stop comparing yourself to others:

  1. Everyone’s start is different: You can’t compare your year 1 to someone else’s year 8. Trust your course and keep at it.
  2. Put the phone down: The moment you notice yourself going there, put your phone down and change your scenery. Go outside, feel the dirt with your hands, breathe in the fresh air. Re-energize yourself.
  3. Move: Negative energy tends to stay with you until you literally move it out of you. Take a yoga class, go for a run, lift a barbell. Move the stagnant energy out of you.
  4. Remind yourself: Take a moment to look over your goals, remind yourself why you are doing what you do.

Lots of Love,

Brittany

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Face Your Fears Like a Kid

fullsizerenderLike many of you are familiar with, this week was the start of a new school year. I was lucky enough to be able to get my 6 year old niece ready for her first day of 2nd grade.  Like all new beginnings, she was nervous.

She normally isn’t the nervous type; she’ll walk up to any kid and ask to play, she’ll dance ballet and tap in front of a hundred people and she’ll even tell adults to face their fears and congratulate them when they do. So it was weird to see her nervous about starting school.

Secretly, I was watching her and learning from her. I noticed these three main steps and even used them this week when I was faced with a situation that I was extremely nervous about.

Step One: Zone Out.  She knew the bus came at 8:00, so for the downtime we had in the morning she didn’t want to talk to me or do anything except zone out.  She watched tv and kept her mind off of what she was nervous about.

Step Two: Tell your peers you are nervous.  We walked to the bus stop and shortly after saying hi to the friends she knew, she giggled and told them she was nervous.  I’m pretty sure they all sighed with relief knowing that they were all nervous and in it together.

Step Three: Go for it. When the bus came, she didn’t even say goodbye to me, she just ran right up to the opened doors.  No delaying the inevitable, she just went for it and didn’t look back (until of course I called her name to take her picture).

She taught me that sometimes we need to take things back to nature. Back to when we were a kid and did things the way we felt like they needed to be done and not the way society has taught us.

Get back to your inner child and do what feels natural to you.

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