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5 Step Cheat Sheet to Dropping the Drama and Making Things Happen

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Mental drama.  You know that pesky inner voice that ruins your amazing, brilliant idea.  The “no, you can’t” when you are trying to figure out how you can.

It is desperately holding you back from living the life you crave.

What if every time you wanted to do something you listened to the drama, oh how boring life would be.

Instead, what if every time you wanted to do something you ignored the drama, the “no, you can’t because blank, blank and blank reasons” and you figured out a way to make it happen.

That sounds like a better option. 

Every time I try to drive this into my writing or goal setting, I always come back to my teacher training program that I led last year.  I didn’t own a studio, I had absolutely no idea if people would sign up and I didn’t know the first thing about creating a yoga teacher training program. All I knew was that I wanted to lead one because I knew I had valuable tools to share with people.

Cue the drama.

I can’t do this because I don’t own a yoga studio.

I can’t do this because what if no one signs up and I wasted time and money for no reason.

I can’t do this because how the heck do I even do this?

So I put it on the back burner for a while because I was listening to the drama. Until I realized that I desperately wanted to do this and there absolutely had to be another option.  The answer could not just be “no”.

Breaking out my handy notebook (I always carry one with me) I began to jot down some ideas, different strategies and ways I could make this work.  In the end, I rented space from a studio I was teaching at, I reached out to the Yoga Alliance who helped me set up the entire YTT program and template and I decided that if no one signed up, oh well, at least I gave it a shot and had fun creating and planning it.

I dropped the drama.

Every day since then I try to bring that into everything I do. The end result might look different, it might not be exactly what you had imagined but there are a million and one ways that you can make something happen if you step back and look at the bigger picture.

5 Step Cheat Sheet to Dropping the Drama and Making Things Happen:

1. Recognize it.

2. Step back and look at the bigger picture.

3. Be flexible (brainstorm different approaches & look at it from different angles).

4. Reach out to others for help when needed.

5. Just have fun with the process.

 

Where are you bringing drama into your life and where can you drop it?

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over coffee project: ashley turner

ASHLEY TURNER – HAZEL & PINE

I came across Ashley on instagram and instantly adored her style, social impact and expression.   

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What does your typical day look like?

Oh goodness, being in the independent creative field, everyday is truly different!  But each day usually starts with laying in bed for an extra few minutes to listen to the birds sing and think about the day ahead, a strong cup of coffee, and if I allow myself enough time I love to sit outside and breathe in the fresh air, then catch a late morning yoga class. If I’m traveling it’s usually wake, explore a new local coffee shop then out on the town/location to shoot all day and usually meet some pretty incredible people along the way. As for evenings, I love winding down my day with a sunset hike and/or make dinner and sip some good wine.

What are some interesting things that people probably do not know about you?

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1.) I am mid-west born and raised from a tiny town in Iowa.

2.) One of my favorite things is going back to Iowa in the summer to go camping and fishing with cold beer and lay under the stars.

3.) I love all things granny chic 😉

4.) I am currently learning how to play the guitar

5.) A dive bar, jute box, and whiskey is my one of my favorite kind of nights on the town

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Do you have any rituals/routines?

I think night time would be where my biggest routine comes in no matter where I am.  It’s my time to process my thoughts, and get alone time which is what re-fuels me.  A candle lit bath or shower with some of my favorite music playing, a cup of hot tea, and reading.

What inspires you day to day?

So many things.  My friends, family, my Ugandan family, the fact that everyone’s story is so different, music, nature, Los Angeles, native cultures and designs, horses, the circle of life, simplicity, traveling, meeting other creatives, old film photos, light, water color, just to name a few…

How do you create?

From within.  Creating has always been a matter of emotional connection or feeling to me.  Photography has been and always will be the way I express and connect what’s happening inside of me when I am capturing that moment.  No matter what is trending or floating around social media, I need to feel it.

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What can we find you daydreaming about?

You sure you want to ask me that? Ha! I daydream about a lot of things.  Here are just a few..

-Having horses someday

-I recently bought my dream property on the Nile River in Uganda and hope to start building on it by the end of the year and I day dream about it being a home/sanctuary to share the land I love with loved ones, as well as sharing it as a yoga retreat where people can practice yoga looking over the Nile, fresh food, sunset kayaks on the river, and volunteer and integrate in to the local community all at the same time.

-Growing and constantly evolving in the company I co-founded with my business partner Nicole, called hazel & pine. We have so many visions and passion projects in the works and are beyond excited to announce them later this year.

-Creating life memories with family and friends, taking my nieces and nephews traveling when they are old enough. Oh, and a road trip with my grandma.

-Growing the non-profit The Farmhouse Project, I launched last year with my family in Uganda. We work with families to enable them to start a farm project as a small business in order to create a path to a sustainable life and provide the means to education for all of their children. I often dream about the day I drive down the road to see them independent and thriving as small business farmers.

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What are some of your favorite books/websites/apps/magazines?

Books:

Many biographies and photography books of the original legends

Into the Wild

Eat, Pray, Love (cliche, I know)

Magazines:

I love reading a good magazine from front to back.  A few of my faves include:

Darling Magazine

Kinfolk

Frankie Magazine

Monster Children

Vogue Italia for photo inspo

Vice mag, they publish great controversial world topics with an unbiased perspective

Websites and apps:

I don’t frequent them a ton since I am on the computer and use technology so much for work, but of course instagram, vine, and recently love messing around on dubsmash.

 What is the best advice you’ve ever been given?

Trust the process.

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Social Media Detox

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I’ve been MIA these past three months as I entered into an unplanned social media detox.  You know when you get to a point where everything annoys you and you just need a break?  That was me three months ago.  And really, who want’s to be annoyed every day?  So I deleted Facebook, WordPress and Twitter from my iPhone and I didn’t even miss it.

The detox was refreshing.

And it allowed me to get clear on how I wanted to use Social Media for my business in the future.

So here is your bonjour b. tip // What can you detox from in your life?  What are you starting to find annoying and irritating?

I didn’t have an end day in mind, I didn’t know if I’d even come back. But today I felt I was ready to jump back in and get the party started…(again).  Today I felt inspired and energized.

So cheers to that!

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over coffee project: kimberly wilson

KIMBERLY WILSON | TRANQUILITY DU JOUR

I distinctly remember the first time I gracefully stumbled upon Kimberly Wilson’s website, I immediately felt at home.  Kimberly is a writer, yoga studio(s) owner, fashion designer, activist, mentor, animal lover, licensed graduate social worker and fellow Francophile. Whew. I’m sure I’m missing something…She has inspired me on so many levels and continues to do so through her blog and podcast. A true entrepreneur, leader and creative.

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What does your typical day look like?

Ah, each day varies. From seeing therapy clients at the Women’s Center, to teaching at my yoga studios Tranquil Space, to writing or recording for my blog and podcast, to learning new skills {I have a slight addiction to continuing education}, to volunteering at hospice. I also spend a bit of time relaxing in bed or in the tub.

What are some interesting things that people probably do not know about you?

  • I’m from the Great Plains. Oklahoma to be exact.
  • I was voted “Most likely to have her own TV show” in college.
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  • I have a 7Eleven glazed donut addiction.

Do you have any routines/rituals?

I start my day with green tea, time with my pets, and a bit of stretching. Ideally some time with my journal, too. At night, I like to read or watch a true crime story segment {odd addiction}, and share something I’m grateful for from the day with my boyfriend.

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What inspires you day to day?

Waking up inspires me day to day. I strive to make each day a sensory-filled experience with fragrant green tea, candles, pink twinkle lights, my furry family, my beau of 11 years, and the work I put out into the world via the podcast, yoga studios, and blog.

How do you create?

Each day I’m creating–whether it’s writing, interviewing someone for my podcast, teaching, organizing the Pink Palace {my 600-square-foot home}, reading, or anything in between. Sometimes there’s a ritual for it such as spreading out my tools, lighting a candle, or opening my laptop after taking a few deep breaths. Oh, and there needs to be red lipstick and a dab of perfume oil.

What can we find you daydreaming about?

Paris, darling. Always Paris. And new sparkly offerings for Tranquility du Jour.

What are some of your favorite books/websites/apps/magazines?

  • I’m obsessed with books and have listed my favorites here.
  • J’adore the mindfulness app I and II for meditation bells.
  • Flow, Mindful, and Bella Grace magazines are my go-tos.

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What is the best advice you’ve ever been given?

Trust your gut. When I haven’t over the years, I’ve paid a price. Overall, my gut has been my biggest teacher {although it does occasionally lead me astray when presented with Thin Mints}.

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over coffee project: jacki carr

JACKI CARR | ROCK YOUR BLISS

When I think of someone filled with joy, following their bliss and waking up every morning dedicated to living their life to the fullest, Jacki Carr is the first person that pops in!

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What does your typical day look like?

A typical day, I can honestly say that I don’t have typical. I recently moved my big, beautiful life from Venice Beach to the Rocky Mountains of Denver! So let how about I tell you what today looks like. I was up at 5:17am to take my pups out, kiss my man good bye for work, sip butter coffee and get to the airport on time. I head to LAX to take a brand-consulting meeting in Carlsbad for the next two days. I will land down, rent a car and zoom over to Venice Beach to meet two coaching clients at TOMS Shoes Flagship Café on Abbott Kinney. From there, I pop in the car to try to beat the traffic towards San Diego and take a couple brainstorming calls in the car for my Imagine1Day: igolu Edition Ethiopia trip I am fundraising for in April! Check into my hotel and squeeze in a quick nap. Shower, get dressed and attend the brand design meeting for dinner, drinks and creative collaboration. A glass of red wine will be in order upon returning to my hotel bed, a call to say good night to my man and I will sleep really, really hard tonight.

What are some interesting things that people probably don’t know about you?

  • I am all over Doreen Virtue’s Angel Cards these days.
  • I may come across with a hard shell; yet I am pure putty on the inside, a total softie.
  • I know every word and the drum solo to John Mellencamp’s ‘Jack& Diane’ song.
  • I love peanut butter.
  • I have a tattoo on my right wrist that say ‘listen’. I needed a permanent reminder.
  • I cannot and will not watch scary movies, yet I can binge watch RomComs all day.
  • As a people person, starting your own business can feel lonely.

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Do you have any rituals/routines?

I believe my sweat practice is my daily ritual. On a run, hiking a mountain or in a yoga class, this is where I get clear.  Most mornings I wake up slow with butter coffee and the Wall Street Journal. There is something magical about ink on the fingertips and big socks.  I want to write that meditation is in there, but I am only just beginning so I will keep you posted on my practice and moving it into the ritual category.

What inspires you day to day?

Right now, I am so inspired by my relationships.  As I embark on getting married and planning this major life event this year, I learned that I really have to lean. I am inspired by the way my fiancé loves me, with patience and the reminder to soften. I am inspired by my family, so engaged in my life planning and my future. And I am inspired by my tribe of radical friends who have booked flights, planned bachelorette parties and been a listening ear when I needed a shoulder and a glass of red wine. Inspired beyond by human connection, always.

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How do you create?

I go live my life and truly choose the activities that bring me joy. My own life is a true reflection of how I am thriving or if/when in survival mode. The more creative I am, the more I know I have been living it well. And my personal stories really guide my blog content and leadership style. There is an accountability there to be in creation, living your work and tools to better land them for others. I love that responsibility and reminder to get out from behind the computer and go hike, meet a stranger at a coffee shop or adventure on a road trip.

What can we find you daydreaming about?

Oh goodness, I daydream often about my wedding (tying the knot in June!), my upcoming service trip to Africa with imagine1day, and my future children in our log cabin home going on hikes and being oh so outdoorsy.

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What are some of your favorite books/websites/apps/magazines?

I am a total book nerd, you can check out my favorite on my book shelf over here. I love Brene Brown’s ‘Gifts of Imperfection’, Anodea Judith’s ‘Eastern Body, Western Mind’, and I am currently reading Diane Ackerman’s ‘A Natural History of Love’.  I love Outside Magazine, Fast Company and the WSJ.  Honestly, I love me some NPR and instagram for the app game.

What is the best advice you’ve ever been given?

The best advice I have ever been given was when my Mom wrote on a post-it note on my makeshift desk in my Santa Monica apartment, “Sometimes in life, you have to get lost to be found”.  For so long I thought I could create a direct path, know all the answers and set goals to create my ‘perfect’ future. I forgot that life happens when you are busy making plans and getting lost is part of the life game to know what you truly want and who truly brings you joy.  Thanks Mom!

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