How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

I’m all about Instagram these days. And for the most part I use it as a tool to inspire myself.  But lately I’ve been noticing the inspiration shifting to comparison.

I’ll be looking at a picture of someone hiking and think, why am I not hiking. Or why can’t I deadlift that weight yet. Or why don’t my legs look like that yet. Or why is my business not as popular as hers yet.

It makes me sick even just typing that because I’m so not a jealous, comparing type of person. But let’s get real. Social Media causes a shift in your mental state that momentarily gives you the notion of dissatisfaction in your life which instantly causes you to compare yourself to others in thinking that their life is way better than yours. Whew.


Here are 4 ways to stop comparing yourself to others:

  1. Everyone’s start is different: You can’t compare your year 1 to someone else’s year 8. Trust your course and keep at it.
  2. Put the phone down: The moment you notice yourself going there, put your phone down and change your scenery. Go outside, feel the dirt with your hands, breathe in the fresh air. Re-energize yourself.
  3. Move: Negative energy tends to stay with you until you literally move it out of you. Take a yoga class, go for a run, lift a barbell. Move the stagnant energy out of you.
  4. Remind yourself: Take a moment to look over your goals, remind yourself why you are doing what you do.

Lots of Love,




One Day Reset

After a weekend of not so good eating I always feel like I need to hit a reset button.  A pause, to refuel myself with foods that nourish, energize and make me feel really good from the inside out.
With that in mind, I’ve created a One Day Reset Guide + Recipes and wanted to share it with you!

Sign up for this free One Day Reset guide to reduce swelling, increase energy and make you feel fabulous. Sign up here!


What Your Smoothies Are Missing

I go through various stages of loving and not loving smoothies. But when I’m in love, I’m nearly stalker-ish about them.

  1. They are super quick and easy to make
  2. You can jam pack them with foods that aren’t that tasty on their own
  3. The variety of flavors you can go with are endless

I could go one, but I’m sure you already know how great they can be.


Chances are your smoothies consist of some sort of dark leafy greens, fruit, protein powder, and maybe some veggies.  That’s pretty much the standard.

But allow me to introduce you to the magical world of powders.  Each one of these are packed with their own almost supernatural properties that will take your smoothies to a whole other level.

Maca Root Powder:

Let me be real with you here.  This is the number one powder you need to be including in your smoothie, especially for all the women out there.  Maca root helps to increase libido, improve memory function, increase energy and endurance, boosts immune system, helps with depression, menstrual and menopause symptoms, female hormone imbalance and a whole laundry list of more.

Spirulina Powder:

A good spirulina powder is mostly made up of 50% or more protein. It’s a great source of iron, essential amino acids, has amazing anti-inflammatory properties and can help ease PMS symptoms.  It is also known to remove toxins from the blood, increase immune system and aids in the fat burning process during exercise.

Psyllium Husk:

Let’s just go there.  This is a fiber, aka laxative. It soaks up the water in your gut making it easier to go to the bathroom, without producing flatulence.  Psyllium also helps with cholesterol levels, overall heart health and blood sugar levels as well as keeping you feeling fuller for longer.

You can find these in most foods stores like Wegman’s or Whole Foods.  I also love these companies you can order from online. Essential Living Foods makes great powder blends, I just got this one a few days ago and love it. Sun Potion is another great company that sells the powders themselves or as blends.  The key here is to make sure you purchase high quality powders for the most added benefits to your smoothies.


Social Media Detox


I’ve been MIA these past three months as I entered into an unplanned social media detox.  You know when you get to a point where everything annoys you and you just need a break?  That was me three months ago.  And really, who want’s to be annoyed every day?  So I deleted Facebook, WordPress and Twitter from my iPhone and I didn’t even miss it.

The detox was refreshing.

And it allowed me to get clear on how I wanted to use Social Media for my business in the future.

So here is your bonjour b. tip // What can you detox from in your life?  What are you starting to find annoying and irritating?

I didn’t have an end day in mind, I didn’t know if I’d even come back. But today I felt I was ready to jump back in and get the party started…(again).  Today I felt inspired and energized.

So cheers to that!


Detox Gone Bad

Not all detoxes are created equal. I know this, I study this, I have a passion for this.

I was in a big slump, feeling very “blah” and I knew the first thing I needed to change was my eating habits.  More greens, less doughnuts.  I didn’t want to do my own personal detox; I wanted to try something new, something different. So I googled, I searched and I came across a vegan detox that looked pretty decent so I clicked ‘purchase’.

The PDF booklet of the detox was sent right to my email and I started glancing through it. Some days seemed pretty good and others barely had enough food for a rabbit.  This was not a detox; it was more like a starvation diet.  My stomach yearned for food just looking at it.  And I was a little sad. A lot sad. I decided to continue to do the detox anyway but add more to it, particularly protein.

Day one was decent; your typical detox day one. But after that it took a deep downhill turn. You see, I wasn’t eating enough and I knew it. But I decided to stick with it just because, just to see, just to test it out.

I lasted 4 out of the 5 days.

Besides my huge drop in energy, I had physically become weaker, I gained weight (yup, gained!), my skin broke out, my stomach was allllllll messed up and I was in a deep state of irritation.

After consulting (whining) to my bff and bf, they both told me what I already knew but didn’t want to listen to. I know my body, I know what it needs. I deprived it of what it needed and my physical and emotional state was going way out of balance to tell me to stop. Detoxes should be about feeling good. They should give you boatloads of energy and make your skin glow like the sunshine. But this was a detox gone bad, simply because I wasn’t listening to what I needed.

My hope for you is that you take this lesson that I learned and apply it to your own life.  It can be so easy to press ‘buy now’ after reading a sneaky good marketing campaign and jump right in without consulting with your needs first.  Become in tune with what your body requests, what your soul craves and what you need on a daily basis to live an optimal healthy lifestyle.