How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

I’m all about Instagram these days. And for the most part I use it as a tool to inspire myself.  But lately I’ve been noticing the inspiration shifting to comparison.

I’ll be looking at a picture of someone hiking and think, why am I not hiking. Or why can’t I deadlift that weight yet. Or why don’t my legs look like that yet. Or why is my business not as popular as hers yet.

It makes me sick even just typing that because I’m so not a jealous, comparing type of person. But let’s get real. Social Media causes a shift in your mental state that momentarily gives you the notion of dissatisfaction in your life which instantly causes you to compare yourself to others in thinking that their life is way better than yours. Whew.


Here are 4 ways to stop comparing yourself to others:

  1. Everyone’s start is different: You can’t compare your year 1 to someone else’s year 8. Trust your course and keep at it.
  2. Put the phone down: The moment you notice yourself going there, put your phone down and change your scenery. Go outside, feel the dirt with your hands, breathe in the fresh air. Re-energize yourself.
  3. Move: Negative energy tends to stay with you until you literally move it out of you. Take a yoga class, go for a run, lift a barbell. Move the stagnant energy out of you.
  4. Remind yourself: Take a moment to look over your goals, remind yourself why you are doing what you do.

Lots of Love,




Just Picture It (a #SelfieRevolution)

How many times do you take a picture of yourself or see a picture of yourself and think, EW!

A week or so ago I was hanging out with my 6 year old niece Hannah and we did what any gal’s would do…took selfies.

When looking back at the photos we had taken my niece started saying “ew” to every single picture. I’m not sure she was even looking at them or understood why she was saying “ew”. It was automatic, like she thought it’s what you’re supposed to do when you look at a picture of yourself.

Jump to an hour or so later, I told my fiancé to take a picture of me and Hannah. I looked at the pictures and immediately starting saying “ew!”. My fiancé reminded me that I had just told my niece to not say that and here I was saying it….

Like it or not, we are in the selfie world. A world where we take hundreds of pictures of ourselves just to get the exact lighting, focus, tilt of our head, bend of our knee, absolute perfect angle. We are so quick to judge these pictures of ourselves, so quick to think they are ugly or not good enough. And now, that thought pattern is trickling down to our children.

If not liking your own pictures doesn’t bother you, then your children not liking their own pictures should.

That’s when #SelfieRevolution needs to begin. If you notice on my Instagram, I have started posting not so perfect photos of myself. Because life is not perfect. Life is not the sunlight hitting you just perfectly in the face with an Instagram filter to hide your blemish.

So here’s your takeaway. The next time you take a photo of yourself, love it, not matter how bad you automatically might want to think it is.





Social Media Detox


I’ve been MIA these past three months as I entered into an unplanned social media detox.  You know when you get to a point where everything annoys you and you just need a break?  That was me three months ago.  And really, who want’s to be annoyed every day?  So I deleted Facebook, WordPress and Twitter from my iPhone and I didn’t even miss it.

The detox was refreshing.

And it allowed me to get clear on how I wanted to use Social Media for my business in the future.

So here is your bonjour b. tip // What can you detox from in your life?  What are you starting to find annoying and irritating?

I didn’t have an end day in mind, I didn’t know if I’d even come back. But today I felt I was ready to jump back in and get the party started…(again).  Today I felt inspired and energized.

So cheers to that!